Independency!!
Hey All ..
Sorry for not writing so long .. actually I was not in the mood of writing a topic .. I was more in the mood of “replying “ which is any way typical me ..
Yeah I want to talk about living alone.. amean living alone by your self with no body sharing your apartment/house .. well you gain halluva of experiences when you do so .. you will know that electricity do cost for instance :P and it will teach you not to leave your iron ON for two days ( Oh yes I did..:( )
However its not the experience that am going to talk about.. it is about a new trend ( or what I personally think is a trend ) I have discussed this topic with two guys separately and both them were from Muscat .. Both of them wanted to live alone and actually were looking for a room/apartment to live alone and independently from their families.. we all familiar with this as we know that it is common in western countries not in Arabic world where the culture still cares a lot for the family bonds .. but lets look at it from different view ..
30 years back ( and its the same in some places in the gulf ) the nuclear family was consisting of grandfather , grandmother , their sons and their wives and their children .. all of them living in one house .. Now its important to mention that those ppl choose to live together not because of a financial/temporary status.. No they lived together cause they wanted so ..no a days you will see that after the son getting married he would look for apartment to rent till he can pay for or build a house .. or he would live temporally in his father house and that would be considered normal.. .. Young men (usually ) don’t leave permanently till they get married .. that was the usual thing, .. even if they are financially independent from the father they would live in the same house till they got married .. but theoretically , if that happen before 30 years ago .. a guy leaving the house could be considered normal in 5 or 10 years from now !!
.. now what I have learned from those two .. that they wanted to live alone ( they don’t know each other by the way and they are from different backgrounds ) because they want to do so .... They want to feel independent completely before they decide to get married, they will live in Muscat while their family live in Muscat too.. Visiting their families in weekends and whenever they want to but not living with them.. Both of them stated that they don’t have problem with their parents and I believe that they were completely frank about that...
The question is this normal? Does it happen every day? Or they are just rare cases that happen to happen in front of my eyes...? Are we going to be like western countries were guys leave the house when they became financially independent? Is it just part of civilization? And why am asking a lot of questiona? don’t I look like Faisal al Qassem in etejah mo3akes : ) ?
One way to think about it.. That guys will mature ,become more independent if they live outside the house .. And I really believe in this...
Other way … family bonds will become weak...
Waiting for your contributions...
Tip of day: If you think only talented people can write … just read my blog and you will know that … you are totally wrong!!! : )
Sorry for not writing so long .. actually I was not in the mood of writing a topic .. I was more in the mood of “replying “ which is any way typical me ..
Yeah I want to talk about living alone.. amean living alone by your self with no body sharing your apartment/house .. well you gain halluva of experiences when you do so .. you will know that electricity do cost for instance :P and it will teach you not to leave your iron ON for two days ( Oh yes I did..:( )
However its not the experience that am going to talk about.. it is about a new trend ( or what I personally think is a trend ) I have discussed this topic with two guys separately and both them were from Muscat .. Both of them wanted to live alone and actually were looking for a room/apartment to live alone and independently from their families.. we all familiar with this as we know that it is common in western countries not in Arabic world where the culture still cares a lot for the family bonds .. but lets look at it from different view ..
30 years back ( and its the same in some places in the gulf ) the nuclear family was consisting of grandfather , grandmother , their sons and their wives and their children .. all of them living in one house .. Now its important to mention that those ppl choose to live together not because of a financial/temporary status.. No they lived together cause they wanted so ..no a days you will see that after the son getting married he would look for apartment to rent till he can pay for or build a house .. or he would live temporally in his father house and that would be considered normal.. .. Young men (usually ) don’t leave permanently till they get married .. that was the usual thing, .. even if they are financially independent from the father they would live in the same house till they got married .. but theoretically , if that happen before 30 years ago .. a guy leaving the house could be considered normal in 5 or 10 years from now !!
.. now what I have learned from those two .. that they wanted to live alone ( they don’t know each other by the way and they are from different backgrounds ) because they want to do so .... They want to feel independent completely before they decide to get married, they will live in Muscat while their family live in Muscat too.. Visiting their families in weekends and whenever they want to but not living with them.. Both of them stated that they don’t have problem with their parents and I believe that they were completely frank about that...
The question is this normal? Does it happen every day? Or they are just rare cases that happen to happen in front of my eyes...? Are we going to be like western countries were guys leave the house when they became financially independent? Is it just part of civilization? And why am asking a lot of questiona? don’t I look like Faisal al Qassem in etejah mo3akes : ) ?
One way to think about it.. That guys will mature ,become more independent if they live outside the house .. And I really believe in this...
Other way … family bonds will become weak...
Waiting for your contributions...
Tip of day: If you think only talented people can write … just read my blog and you will know that … you are totally wrong!!! : )
posted by Sowhat at
1:49 AM
4 Comments:
sowhat, dont be surprised. I have heard a lot of guys doing it these days. They want to be independant and take responsibility of everything.
Well somehow I feel its ok for those who really want to experince a new life with responsibiliies. But there are those who would want to live alone so they can do what they want without anyone saying anything to them (party all night, drinking, girls.. you name it)
so as I said before it depends..
In my family,I can't think of any guy who decided to live alone. It is rare but it can/does happen.
The only reason I can think of , is because they might not want their parents to have a say in their lives ;Total freedom and independency. It doesn't make sense to me that independency before marriage is the only reason for them to move out from their parent's place.
If this becomes the 'norm' then I would say the family bonds will grow weaker and weaker.It would be a shame !
Arabian families have been built under the circular rule as you mentioned Sowhat, yet with what is considered as "modernization" a lot of the young generation would rather be independent. I don’t see the harm in the situation unless the main reason is being free to do the things that Namika mentioned, which is not excuse to choosing that life style. Parents can maybe compromise and create separate living quarters for them, thus solving the problem.
When a guy lives abroad (for studying) and comes back to Oman, he might have it hard to get adopted again to family life style ..
I personally dont like it when a guy (or a girl) lives away from thier family, all parents love to have thier kids around and this is the least they could do to them.
something always happens, when a person lives alone slowly he will feel less attached to his family, something I will hate to see.
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